11 Ways To Teach Good Manners To Your Child
Good manners are something very important that child should learn. Many times it is heard that if a child is having good manners, people around will label the child as God gifted. But that is not the case.
Yes, it comes to some kids more easily than to others, but there is always an adult who is teaching them how to behave in a better way, nurturing them from day one, and spending all their time and energy preparing their child for the world.
As parents or care givers, it becomes our duty to teach our children good manners, as it is more humane, more civilised and more pleasing to see a person with good manners than to see and be with someone, who never says please or thank you to anyone, or does not know how to behave in public.
Good manners teach us to live together in a better way, where you care about others too. A child who has good manners, will be noticed and appreciated more by the teachers, parents, relatives and everyone. Here we are not teaching our kids to gain appreciation of others, but we are teaching them how to behave well, understand feelings of others, and react in an appropriate way.
It is not very difficult to teach the child good manners. Starting early and very calmly and politely even when the child doesn’t behave well is the key.
- Start early
- Model what you preach
- Teach them to be polite
- Remind them to say “Please” when they ask for something
- Remind them to say “Sorry” when they do something wrong
- Remind them to say “Thank you” when someone helps them
- Teach them not to interrupt people in conversations
- Teach them about sharing
- Avoid screaming
- Teach table manners
- Praise when they behave well
Starting early is the key to most of things and so is for teaching good manners. No, your child is not too young to learn. When your child starts recognizing you and you are talking to your child, always talk in a calm and a polite manner. Yes, it is the part of teaching good manners to your child.
If you start early the child will perceive it as the right way, and anywhere or anyone the child sees doing something wrong your child will understand and recognise the difference. For e.g. a child who knows throwing wrappers or waste on the road or in the park is bad manners, when sees any other person doing it will know that the other person is doing something wrong.
Now in this case, either the child will understand that it was wrong or the child will start doing the same. Here comes the role of a parent. The parent at this time can make sure the child understand the difference between the good and bad manners.
Model what you preach
You are your child’s first teacher. They will do what they see. If you behave in a good way, so will the child. If the child sees the parent littering around the whole time, the child will learn the same. So, to help your child learn good manners, you will first have to model good manners yourself.
As the famous saying goes, “Practice what you preach.” So, what you will do, so will your child. They learn from actions more than from words.
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Teach them to be polite
Politeness is the key to many problems. Being polite calms down the other person as well. Politeness also gives assurance. Teach your child to talk politely to everyone.
For them to understand this, you will have to talk politely to others and even to the child. They will learn what they see. If you see them being harsh or rude, just tell them politely.
Remind them to say “Please” when they ask for something
“Please” is another word the child should learn when you are teaching him or her good manners. Saying please when they ask for some help or something is a very good and polite way to talk.
You can model it everyday when you talk to your child saying, “Please can you do your home work.” or “Please can you switch off the lights.” or anything that you are asking your child to do.
Slowly the child will start incorporating “Please” in their day to day talks with everyone.
Remind them to say “Sorry” when they do something wrong
“Sorry” is another powerful word. When you do something wrong unintentionally you say “Sorry”. When you say “Sorry” it increases the bonding. But tell the child what “Sorry” means. Do not just teach them to say “Sorry” when they do something wrong.
“Sorry” means “I will not do it again.” So, the child should understand what they are saying “Sorry” for and that they would not be repeating it in the future.
Remind them to say “Thank you” when someone helps them
Saying “thank you” is one of the best ways of expressing gratitude. Teach your child to say thank you whenever someone helps them, or praises them or gives them a gift.
The child will initially forget to say thank you. Just remind them politely when they forget. Slowly they will start saying on their own every time when the situation comes. It is one of the good manners your child should learn.
Please, Thank you and Sorry are the “3 Magic Words.”
Teach them not to interrupt people in conversations
This is one important good manner your child will have to learn. Tell your child when you are speaking to someone else they need to wait for their turn to come. In schools, kids are not allowed to talk haphazardly. They are taught to raise their hands when they want to speak and will be given their turns when one person is done talking.
Tell them why is it important to wait for their turn. Tell them this way everyone will get a chance to talk and you will be able to understand both them and to the other person. If two people talk together no one can be heard clearly and understood.
Appreciate them when they follow it and tell them they did good.
Teach them about sharing
Sharing is one important aspect of human behavior. We need to share our things in order to help someone else, or be close to the other person or just to show concern. Teach your child to share their food, their toys, colors etc.
In schools also kids are made to sit in groups where they can share the stuff they are given to do the activities. Say, it is an art and craft class, the children will be given a box of crayons to color from. This way they will learn to share and respect each other. Small activity with big meaning.
Screaming will not do any good to the child as well as to you. Screaming will make the situation worse. Yes, it is totally understandable that you might loose your patience once in a while, but doing it every day all the time when the child is not listening or doing something wrong is not the solution.
Sit with the child and explain politely how he or she needed to do something. Make sure the child is not scared or confused. If dealt with politeness the child will understand better and will try to do better from the next time.
Teach table manners
Teaching table manners is important too. Right from the child starts sitting, make the child sit on a high chair. Slowly start teaching how to hold the spoon and the fork. The child will make a mess in the beginning but slowly start teaching the child the appropriate way of eating.
The child will learn. Teach them how to hold a sandwich, or how to roll the spaghetti, or how to cut something with the knife and hold it with the fork. It takes time, but the child learns.
Praise when they behave well
Praising the child for anything and everything they do well is one of the best ways of saying yes you can do it. If you are telling them that something they are doing is wrong, also tell them when they are doing something good. This will make them happy and will want to do it more often. So, praise them and it will act as a positive reinforcement.
Good manners are something all the children and the adults should know. If that happens the world will be a better place to live in. And the change should start from our home. If the child learns good manners, they will learn how to differentiate between right and wrong. They will learn how to take right decisions for themselves when they grow up. So, teaching your child good manners is a way of teaching them about life, which will help them later.